Resilience & Finding A Better Way

When you have 20 minutes, watch Sheryl Sandberg’s UC Berkeley Commencement Speech.

Sheryl shares what she’s learned in death (her husband, the love of her life and father to their two kids, died suddenly a year ago). She challenged me to choose joy, and be grateful on the easy days and on the hard days.

Here are some of my takeaways:

  • “In the face of any void or challenge you can choose joy and meaning.”
  • “The easy days ahead of you will be easy. It is the hard days, the days that challenge you to your very core that will determine who you are.
  • “You will be defined not just by what you achieve, but by how you survive.”
  • “When option A is not available, kick the shit out of option B.”
  • “Find gratitude not just on the easy days, but the hard days when you will need it.”
  • “Deep within you is the ability to learn and grow. You are not born with a fixed amount of resilience. It’s a muscle. You can build it up and then draw on it when you need it. In that process you figure out who you really are and you just might become the very best version of yourself.
  • “We are more vulnerable than we ever thought, but stronger than we ever imagined.”

One ritual Sheryl now does every night is she records three moments of joy she experienced during the day. What three moments of joy have you experienced today?

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